Why Fully Healing is a Myth

I'm going out on a limb with this title.

I mean...I'm a healer, and here I am, claiming it's all a ruse.

But here's where I see the distinction:

I don't think healing is a myth. I think being healed is a myth.

And it's because of one quote:

"healing is a spiral, not a straight line."

- Erin Telford

Have you ever been in a really great place, thinking that your troubles were over, your triggers were behind you, that because of the knowledge and wisdom you gained due to an experience, you had nothing more to learn when it comes to that experience, and you're on top of the world, ready to preach your enlightened guru sunny demeanor to everyone?

Humans have an unbelievable hope that one day they will arrive at a place where nothing hurts and everything goes well for the rest of forever. 

And then you're suddenly being torn apart by a similar (or the same!) experience. 

This is because we are meant to grow through healing. Healing isn't meant to resolve our issues (although this is a great side effect); healing is a forever process to commit to. 

Healing is meant to expose to us what become our deepest lessons - and our deepest lessons, like anything else that's memorable or important to us, are themes that keep showing up in our lives.

This is why I'm skeptical of total forgiveness, enlightenment, happiness, and stability. I'm skeptical of those who seek something or someone to solve all of their problems. I'm skeptical of those who believe that because they have moved away from an experience, that experience has not informed their story.

Always reframe a "setback" as a "growth spurt." That's exactly what it is. 

You may be "in that place again." That place may look exactly the same.

Remember that you, however, are not. 

Why Writing is So Important

I wrote my first "book" when I was 7.

There was something about writing that was addicting. I loved filling pages with notes, characters, stories, journal entries, poems, you name it, anything that I could reread back to myself to learn more about who I was and this new world I was in.

It was my security. It was my mirror. It was how I managed to grow up in one piece.

Fast forward to today, and the only emotional writing I really have time for is this blog. 

Until last week, when I picked up a blank notebook and went at it. 

And I'm happy to report: the calling is back. The voracious filling is back. The never ever stopping is back. 

I visited a healer on Saturday who told me that she was gathering a creativity in my energy that wanted to be released. I laughed in confirmation after she said, "For some reason, writing keeps coming up." 


I'm not the only person who believes this irreplaceable art form is beneficial (and addicting). There are countless studies done on the benefits of writing down affirmations, gratitude lists, lists of what you did well in a day, etc. It all improves your happiness and quality of life.

It helps to heal trauma.

It helps you to understand yourself.

It helps you to understand the world.

It helps others to make sense of a messy world. 

James Pennebaker is a researcher at the University of Texas Austin and an author of a book titled Writing to Heal. 

In his book, Pennebaker says:

Emotional upheavals touch every part of our lives. You don't just lose a job, you don't just get divorced - these things affect all aspects of who we are - our financial situation, our relationships with others, our views of ourselves, our issues of life and death. Writing helps us focus and organize the experience. 

I want you to write today. Something will be released. Something may even be resolved. Something new will come up - something you didn't even know what there. This is the portal to your soul. 

So take out a pen and paper (a REAL pen and REAL paper!), do whatever ritual you have to do, and get at it.

The Holy Instant

I have a brilliant friend who grew up in a household sans religion or spirituality, but recently started attending church. She is also dedicating her life to a career in science. 

We were talking about spirituality, and she mentioned that despite her willingness to believe that there is a higher power, miracles still freak out her logical mind.

Being the student that I am, I offered her the perspective from A Course in Miracles. That all a miracle is is a shift in perception from fear to love.