Why You're Not Alone

I was sitting in a class in college when I had a realization that I have consistently to this day - we are not that different. 

You and I. Him and her. Voldemort and Harry. Jesus and you. 

I was reading a chapter from a theoretical book on creativity, language, and signs. The theorist ran through the processes of innovation, how people reach for new ideas. 

You know what? Every idea ever conceived is built off of the same ideas that already exist. 

Doesn't this imply that there is nothing in expression we can't already know? Nothing that is too far-fetched, too "crazy," unimaginable. We have an innate power to make connection.

It was a sad realization, because it dawned on me that there are limits on the human mind. It seemed, in a way, as though our world had gotten smaller. 

But this has amazing consequences for something we all perceive - separation from one another.

A Course in Miracles teaches that separation is "a process by excluding something that exists in you but which you do not want, and leads directly to excluding you from your brothers."

In essence, separation from one another is not something that exists. 

It is something you create.

My words about judgement spoke to the same effect, but I want to dive deeper into this topic, because I think it is so important. 

Any time you feel anxious, depressed, obsessive, someone understands.

Any time you feel that you are alone in a situation, someone has experienced it before you.

We function at different levels, have different sequences of experiences, express ourselves differently, but all of those bottom-line feelings of fear, love, and creativity have existed before. 

To put this in current context, police brutality against black men in the United States - most recently, Freddie Gray - there is a way to see both polarizing sides of the situation with love. 

If only police forces and those in systematic power could see each human being as the underlying truth of who they are - love - there may not be as much brutality. 

If only rioters woulds see that violence is not the answer - and that love is the most convincing of all forces. 

We could maybe move toward the peace that we are not alone. 


The thought that we aren't that different is empowering. We are connect, we are one. We can work together to build up each other's strengths and weaknesses. 

1). Question. The next time you find yourself attacking another person - through anger, judgement, jealously, or anything that makes you feel separate - stop for a moment and ask yourself. What is there inside of me that I am rejecting?

2). Forgive. Forgive yourself for this attack. Forgive the other person for displaying what you've rejected. Forgive the situation; mark it as a lesson. 

3). Return. Don't forget the most important step - how can you show more compassion and love to yourself, and to others?

Let's get each other back together.