If you're like me, you are sensitive to others' feelings, traumatic experiences, and energy.
Being sensitive means you soak up another's experience and allow it to change your energy. You take it all on. You feel what another person feels.
You are an empath.
Being an empath is a wonderful thing to be, but it can be draining to balance our lives along with the lives of others. Empathy is a big reason why being around others exhausts me, and why I have to spend a lot of time by myself.
I have recently been bracing myself to take on work that may be difficult for me as an empath. I sat in prayer and meditation one night and asked for a way to cope.
I was filled with a bright light and calm that told me this is your purpose. You will find the strength to accomplish what you need to accomplish. I believed that voice, but still wasn't settled.
The next day, I opened up A Course in Miracles. This passage hit me like a ton of bricks:
In other words, the ego (our innate fear) uses empathy to separate ourselves from one another. We perceive a person in pain as weak and forever suffering; and in this perception, we join in the suffering. The ego loves to suffer. The ego believes that suffering along with that person equates to love.
Instead, we can use love to transform the ego's definition of empathy into one of a higher connection. This does not mean we ignore the situation or invalidate someone's feelings. By recognizing another's light and our own, we open up a space for mutual healing only.
The true gift of empathy is to serve another person in light, and to allow yourself to be served.
To do this, it is important to practice shielding your light energy. Cloaking yourself in light, feeling that you're surrounded by angels, taking deep breaths to connect yourself to your inner peace, or meditation are the best ways to stay involved with inner love and find the guidance to release negative energy from another.
1). If you are surrounded by a person or people who are speaking negatively, going through a difficult time, or making you feel general discomfort, take inventory of your body. How do you yourself feel? What are you soaking up?
2). Take steps to shield your own light. Excuse yourself to center your mind or do deep breathing exercises; cloak yourself in a golden waterfall. Be present while you listen to them.
Do not worry that you are soaking up their energy. If you are feeling overwhelmed, be present in their presence.
Notice your own feelings of discomfort, sadness, or anger moving through you, but do not engage mentally with them.
3). Remember that you can reflect your inner light to this person. You can bring them to a space of healing for you both. You feeling their pain will not help them; their restoration will take a much shorter time if you are providing them with the permission to shine.
Repeat: I extend my light to the world.
I extend my love to your heart.
Together, we will rise to the light.